The Secret To Harmonious Relationships
They are the backbone of a healthy life...
Humans are social animals. In being so, Relationships are key components in our lives as a species. Relationships are the connection with others but also the connection with yourself. They are the backbone of a healthy and harmonious life. In this time where the digital world is taking so much space in our lives, it is more important than ever to maintain positive relationships and The Human Connection.
We have all felt nourished, supported and sustained by our relationships. In the same way, we can feel helpless when a relationship turns into a misunderstanding or conflict due to poor communication.
Navigating the road of our relationships is not easy. At TheHealing.com we humbly offer you a few tips from various experiences that have illuminated many paths to more harmonious, authentic and meaningful relationships.
1. Learn to love yourself and keep a positive relationship with yourself
Feeling balanced in your relationships is intimately linked to your relationship with yourself.
The practice of activities such as yoga and meditation is a valuable tool to train your body and mind to cultivate clarity, calm and a greater sense of connection with yourself and with the life energy that flows through your being.
In yoga, we learn that the primary relationship to maintain is with ourselves, since the ultimate union is that of body and mind.
How do you relate to your own self? What words, gestures, thoughts do you use for yourself?
Do you take time to simply be with yourself, to get to know yourself intimately, to be good and happy and to tap into your needs, your pleasures, your dreams and your deep aspirations?
A simple and effective practice that you can do regularly is to ask yourself the following question and listen to your inner response: "What am I experiencing right here and now and how does this make me feel? Does it make me happy?”
Keep inner quiet and just listen to the thoughts that come about without judgment or fear. When you learn to listen to yourself you can then expand your capacity to listen and be compassionate towards others.
2. Practice nonviolent Communication
Being non-violent is the first step if you wish to create and maintain harmonious relationships.
To be non-violent is also and above all to refrain from any hurtful thought, word, or action, either towards yourself or towards others. Gandhi popularized this term at the beginning of the century by putting it into practice during the conflicts that marked India's independence.
In Ghandi’s words “Nonviolence under its active form consists, consequently, in goodness towards everything that exists. It is pure love.'
Choosing to apply this concept in your relationships leads you to reevaluate your reactions towards a situation or person when experiencing a conflict. In practical terms, it is a matter of verifying if your words or actions can hurt the other person or yourself.
As theorists of the non-violent communication movement explain, making this choice allows us to strengthen our ability to give with kindness and to inspire others to do the same.
3. Set an intention of harmony and peace
Neuroscience has made us realize that our brains are designed to look for meaning in other people. We are more connected to the other person's inner world than we think.
To allow healthy relationships and well-being, we encourage you to plant and water the seeds of harmonious relationships by offering respect and kindness to the people around you. How can you do this on a daily basis? By taking the time to choose and express clear intentions, and by re-reading your intentions regularly to remind yourself of them. These intentions are guidelines you can refer to if conflicts were to arise in your life.
The practice of intentions is therefore very much linked to mindfulness. Once you plant an intention, it will be watered by your life experiences. For example, if a husband gets frustrated with his wife. If he sets an intention to keep calm and deal with it without speaking hurtful words, instead of letting his anger take over, he will choose to back off from the situation, take a break to get out of his emotions and tap into the emotion of love and empathy that he feels deep down inside underneath all the anger and frustration. This will inevitably lead to a different outcome.
You can also make long-term intentions about how you want to live your relationships by asking yourself what your heart desires: "What is most important to me to live in my connection to others?"
Align the compass of your heart in the direction that inspires you, and return to it often to move forward in your relationships.
Always ask yourself what your heart would say or do at that moment, then breathe and come back to find the answer and the strength in your heart.
4. Breaking free from our Resistance
Our relationships frequently reveal things we are unable to comprehend on our own. Like mirrors, they reflect our joys and sorrows, our hopes and fears.
Let the other person show you what is inside of you, even the things you find hard to accept. How can you find the perfect balance between respecting yourself and questioning yourself on your behavior, your words to be open to positive transformation?
Instead of focusing on what is going on in the relationship and how the other person might have done you wrong, the trick is to focus on yourself and what this situation is triggering in you. It is about recognizing what the relationship is doing to you and using your feelings to express and share your needs for change in a positive and constructive way.
Our relationships sometimes lead us to explore our own limits which are our own resistance to change, when in fact, we want this change deep down! So be brave, dare look at yourself, recognize your triggers, your wounds, your hidden emotions, and learn to welcome them gently with love and forgiveness and the understanding, in your body and in your heart, that your thoughts and emotions are not personal.
Thoughts are not personal, they appear, they are not us, but they express themselves through us to be seen and heard, so that we understand what they have to tell us. They are messengers. They come and when the message is delivered, they go and we forget they were even here. Welcome them and then return to your essence, which is Love who seeks to be loved and to love, quite simply put.
It is important to remember that it is thanks to the opening of the heart that you will be able to welcome the wealth and diversity of other beings who have come in turn to enrich and be enriched by your respective paths.
With all our Love, Blessings and wishes of Healing;
Thehealing.com Team
